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Why shouldn't we tease girls ?

Its been a week since Raksha Bandhan and I went to Shimla that week with my friends . I was badly missing my sister because it was third time in row that i was not with her during this festival. I was thinking about writing something for her but I couldn't. So today, I decided to write something. Of course there is a lot of work to do but 'padhna hi to hai :p'.
The cases of eve teasing are on a rise. Every girl once in her life faces such incidents. One of my female friend who is working in Gurgaon often tells me on eve teasing. In her words, “People stare at me every time. It becomes difficult at times for a working women in these situations. One cannot just leave behind everything and sit at home because of such people.”
A friend of mine at Jaipur once told me on how one of her friend was molested by some guys and how another one was slapped by her boyfriend, just because she refused to go out on a movie with him but instead went to party with her friends.
Sometimes my sister also discusses with me on how her friends are harassed by a gang of boys and how helpless they are at times. Do you think it is their fault ? Should they stop going out?
I was watching videos on storypick on RakshaBandhan, where a sister asked her brother to make her promise  that he will treat his wife in the same way he wants his sister to be treated by her husband. And that is the dogma in our society, everyone want others to respect and behave properly with their sisters, wife and mother, but forget the same in their own case. Why is it so difficult to treat all girls with respect ?
One of my college friend said "I have been brought up believing girls are no less than boys, and I do not like to be told not to wear something or go somewhere just because of some people. If my brother can do what he wants then I should also be able to live life on my own terms, and being a girl should not affect that."
Suppose if something wrong happens with one of your own, what would you do ? Whom would you blame? That's why we need to change our thinking and need a revolution in the society, to make living safe for everyone.


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