As a kid many a time you must have encountered the question where do you want to go? Heaven or Hell. To me, the very first time this question arose in my classroom and almost everyone wanted to go to heaven, we chose heaven with much confidence and happiness while imagining it. Though we have a very limited image of it. Later as I grew up, I changed my answer to “Hell” as none of my friends would go to heaven. My friends were still asking for heaven but I was damn sure that they will end up in hell, so I can wait for them there if I get to go first.
Like I said, we had a very confined image of heaven as a kid. Though we still have no idea what it looks like. While writing this I recalled a story. A primary school teacher asked her students to draw the image of God. After some time, the teacher visited every table in the class just to check what they are drawing. Every student was drawing kind of god as they have seen on the TV or in posters at home or anywhere else. But one student hadn’t started to draw and her sheet was blank. The teacher asked, “why are you not drawing?”. “I don’t know what does God look like?” the kid answered.
That is true for all of us. We don’t know how does God look like if it exists. We don’t know what does heaven look like. We know nothing. Though some of you argue about god’s existence. about a year ago, a college senior at a birthday party, while talking about the existence of god, said: “I believe that there is nothing as God, and I will believe it only if anybody can prove it mathematically.” Ohh that was a good point, I too agreed with him at that time. But later I thought that if we can have the probabilistic model of the presence of electron in different orbits, where we can specifically tell whether an electron will be present at a specific point or not; then probably we can mathematically prove that God doesn’t exist. I haven’t encountered that guy again, but if I meet him now, I will definitely ask him to find a mathematical proof of that God doesn’t exist. Eventually, he will found the other side too.
The heavens we are told are full of things which a “Man” need. No matter which religion or creed or caste or society you belong, your heaven is made only for Men. Name a thing which is specifically for women, I bet you can’t. Where would women go? Ever thought about that?
The greed of getting to heaven is so strong that we have made this living hell. We know that we should live in present but that looks too difficult because are too busy to make this life as worse as possible. We, cumulatively together and without any good reason, are destroying each other. Here I am talking about Man and Woman, though it applies to many other combinations out there.
Everything around us which is straight is masculine in nature and things with curves are said to be feminine. Compare a woman in bell-bottom and shirt to a woman in regular girly clothes. Similarly, compare a man in round neck T-shirt to a man with a V-neck T-shirt or in a suit. In both the situation you can see the change of messages they give. Woman in bell-bottom and Man in the suit looks powerful. In the other case, the same people will look cuter.
Power is what a man desires. If you look closely around you, every man is directly or indirectly working to have more power. From the beginning, they associated everything with their pride, and they were proving it wherever possible. Even women became part of their pride with time. There were reasons for that but that’s where something went wrong. Pride is what for which a man can’t share his subjects of pride with others, remember his woman is also one of these subjects, whether the woman is mother, sister, wife or daughter.
It is difficult for men to swallow their pride if a woman who belongs to them is under attack. I am not talking about Indian society only, anywhere around the world every war out there took place either for getting women or to gain more power. Man is not happy what he has, he always needs more of everything.
A woman has a nature of sacrifice. Women are emotionally much stronger than a man. Whenever such things are generalised and compared, we compare the average of one to average of others. On average a woman is much stronger with emotions than a man, not only emotions there are many more aspects of a women’s nature which we are unaware of. Though emotion itself contain too much in it, it has the nature of sacrifice, the ability to care for someone etc. Their biological structure doesn’t give them much muscular power but there are many other things where they are way too better than a man is.
As in today’s world’s where women are powerful and becoming independent, they are also falling in this trap. Earlier only men wanted power, now women are also part of the game. For example, if we talk about ladies like Indira Gandhi, Sushma Swaraj or any other lady who is a big face, their gender was neven an issue for their success. They were there just to have the power, and nothing satisfies more than that, even money is secondary to that. Though a man always enjoys and happy to see a woman who belongs to him, rules.
For some reasons, women became just the subject of pride to a man. When things like happens in society for too long we stop questioning them and that may result in some dangerous ritual or something. Like Sati Pratha, Men were too afraid that the girl may marry some other man so they wanted her to die with her. They were afraid to share her with some other man after their death. That happened because women became the subject of pride. Though they still are subject of pride but now for many good reasons we are not that orthodox. Double standards of men can be seen when Sati Pratha did not apply to man. Women’s were neglected here.
People who got the chance to hold power never let it go off their hands. It might have not stayed with them but they tried to have everything under their control as far as it was possible for them. The taste of power is such that it will not let you leave it. Those who had power had done bad things. Whoever had power used it for bad, those who didn’t and went ahead to things which were not possible for a common man to do were titled as a god on this land. To simplify it just think why do you call Sachin a god, but not to Virat or any other player? Though you can find plenty of examples for misuse of power by those who had it.
Nowadays when women are legally getting some protection they are taking it on men. Though I agree that they need more protection and I am not anti-feminist, I am anti of feminists. Because to my knowledge whatever fake feminists I have seen they are just playing women card wherever they get the chance. This is really harmful and personally makes me hate them. Because they don’t care for the boundary. They don’t know boundaries.
Let me explain this way, suppose we are talking about how good or bad do I write? Then I start to justify it well from my point of view and you are there to prove it’s not good. Then you try your best, I still dominate. There may come a point where you desperately want to win. Then you have two choices, either swallow your pride and agree that you lost or cross the boundaries. It is hard for Men, these days for women too as they are also fighting for power, to accept the defeat. So you will criticize me instead of my writing, believe me, it was okay until you were criticizing the writing only. Now as you have crossed the boundary, you can’t expect me not to cross mine. That is where the game goes dirty. We are ready to go to any extent, just to win an argument or debate or just to prove our point and then we call ourselves “The Critique”.
I’m open to criticism about my blogs and probably everything else but only if boundaries are taken care of. There are no boundaries while talking about writing because I am a beginner but there are issues where I expect people to act mature.
Now you may say that I am anti-feminist. I am not and nowadays I have stopped giving such certificate of proof for some reasons. I know that women out there are not safe, I don’t know what to do. I know that even men out there are also not safe, I don’t know what to do for them. When both of them should work with each other, they are working against each other and that’s what is more dangerous. Men will have to swallow their pride at instances and Women will have to stop playing women card every time they lack.
Though there are women who I personally know and are working as hard as a man can, and are thriving in their career. There are men, who know how to swallow their pride and keep going ahead. I can name a few of them, Vikas Saini and Narendra Patidar are some of those amazing people I know. Bhoomika is another friend of mine who is just getting great.
If we are to play the blame game here for women’s situation then keep playing because I’m out. Every religious ritual we had in our culture had some significance and therefore everything was designed to have the most efficient life one can have. Not everyone had this kind of lifestyle, like not everyone here is interested in bodybuilding or playing tennis or writing or acting. Those who wanted to have it had it or could go for this path whenever they wanted to go. Instead of playing the blame game you can explore more and find answers for the queries you have. That will, at least, make you calm if not your opponent. That will definitely improve your knowledge over subjects and you will never need to cross the boundaries.
Though I was trying to thrash some of the heavens, I don’t know if I succeeded.
So, How’s Your Heaven?
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